Understanding Your Achiever Part
Originally Aired: Wednesday, May 6, 2026
This Workshop is complete. You are able to purchase a copy of the Workshop below, which is yours to keep forever.
Included in your purchase will be:
1 x 90-minute Workshop Recording
1 x 78-minute Additional Q&A Session
1 x Audio of the Main Session Exercise
1 x up to 10-minute Personalised Audio Reply for up to 3 short questions directly related to the Workshop
Cost: £40
"I've worked with IFS therapists in the past and found it frustrating. Julie's deep understanding of parts, and how they relate to this condition makes all the difference. She does an amazing job of explaining the achiever part in an easy-to-understand way. Her calm demeanor and personality makes this all very approachable. I love the concrete action items that she discusses—it's more than just theory."
Who is this Workshop For?
– For Anyone who wishes to understand more about their Achiever Part
– For Anyone who has done the whole Gupta Program and has a basic understanding of the Achiever Part
– For Anyone with an open mind and is willing to break down their beliefs about the Achiever Part
– For Anyone with an Inner Critic (and how these parts are connected)
"I loved the structure of the main topic: 1. How the Achiever looks and feels, 2. How it was burdened and made unhealthy, 3. Its beliefs, 4. Its needs, 5. How to heal it. And in this are so many valuable informations and details, which resonate with me deeply. As always the exercise lead me into a very beneficial meeting with my part - this time the Achiever. I always love Julie's open way of talking and how she connects with her wise loving self when answering the questions. The Q&A audio was so enriching for me, even though I didn't ask questions by myself. I learned so much from the workshop to understand my very strong achiever who carried so many burdens in my life. And I understood how it interacts with the inner critic and victim. The image with the triangle supported my understanding very good!! Thank you, Julie!"
What is covered in this Workshop?
Join this Workshop to learn about:
– What the Achiever Part Looks and Feels Like
– How the Achiever is made
– How did the Achieve save you?
– What the Achiever’s Beliefs are
– What does the Achiever Want?
– Understand how the Achiever Part in linked to the Inner Critic
– Which other Parts does the Achiever Part impact
– Understanding how the Achiever Part impacts our Health
– What does the Achiever Part need to heal?
– How can the Achiever Part support us in our Journey to Health?
– Speak with your Achiever Part to start the process of healing this part
"I love the way Julie talks about parts. She helps make them seem approachable and friendly. Whether it’s reading her responses on the forum, or attending a workshop or group, I know I can always count on Julie to enlighten and inspire me to keep working with my parts."
Structure of Session
0.15 Introduction – Your Coach
2.25 Connect as a Group
6.24 Guidelines
8.23 Stretch and Yawn
11.21 Main Topic – Understanding Your Achiever Part
39.25 Stretch and Yawn
41.51 Exercise – Meet Your Achiever Part
59.12 Stretch and Yawn
1.01.07 Additional Information
1.02.34 Questions and Answers
1.26.10 What’s Next – Additional Q&A
"I have taken all Julie's workshops and find them well thought out and presented in a way that is safe and gentle with permission to absorb the material at one's own pace. The information I have found to be invaluable in working with my parts. I highly recommend these workshops to anyone who is wanting and willing to put in the work to really work and learn about the various aspects of self and how it impacts the healing journey."
Additional Q&A
0.00 Welcome
0.10 It usually feels worse to have the pressure, criticism, and judgement of not completing what I think I should vs. pushing myself to do it and then causing a dip. A lot of my self-worth still comes from getting things done and being proactive and staying on track or on schedule. I also worry about getting overwhelmed if I don’t do a chore and then the next day I will have too many piling up. How to work through this?
7.23 A month ago I started to be more aware of that pushing energy, and instead of doing the activity I do nothing or focus on relaxing and calming down my nervous system. But now my achiever is turning doing nothing into something to accomplish and succeed at, and I have attached healing expectations to it. How to stop my achiever from turning everything into something to accomplish?
10.35 During the workshop something very weird happened. As you were leading us through the exercise all of a sudden (shortly before we were supposed to breathe it out) my energy totally drained, I had a mood swing and that state didn’t change for about a day. Do have any idea what might have happened there?
14.18 I always thought that I have an extreme achiever, but now I’m confused. That part I’m talking about searches the Internet for breathing techniques and other things to help me recover. It has difficulties just resting. Why not do a Yoga Nidra or a meditation instead? It used to rush all day long even with nothing that has to be done. Like brushing my teeth in a hurry, walking with my shoulders up as if being chased. When I was better it pushed me to run further or to do more repetitions during a workout out. It isn’t looking for status like great job, money, house… at all.
What kind if part is that?
19.21 Then there is a part that keeps doing things no matter what. Totally fatigued, but still inviting family for a birthday gathering e.g. It gets appoval for this behavior. I used to be a lot calmer not rushing and that was judged as being phlegmatic. I guess my Achiever and People Pleaser are best buddies. I can’t really differentiate. Is it important to label the parts as Achiever, Victim…? I have difficulties doing that as well as working with a part that isn’t “acute”. At the moment, it feels like parts work adds to my overwhelm. I know for sure that I have a huge Helper and People Pleaser 😎
24.31 I thought I was an overachiever, but now I’m not so sure given the maximizer part. In many ways, I can check off all of the boxes for what it feels like to be an Achiever with the exception of no forethought or planning, which I have A LOT of. I do not care about money, job, car, etc., but it is important to me to achieve on my own, do not ask for help as I do not ever want to appear as stupid (which is why I do a lot of forethought and planning) and definitely have a perfectionist side (signed up for the next workshop). I’m having trouble understanding if I aim to gain “notice”. I actually fear public acknowledgement in most situations (had 20 people at my wedding because I didn’t want the attention), but I do aim to gain notice from my husband, who is not really capable of noticing and/or communicating his appreciation/approval as he is autistic and just doesn’t think this way. Is it still overachieving if I am really only seeking notice from him (and I suppose at some level, a small handful of (those closest to me) people to a much lesser degree)? I do feel more connected to the idea that this push comes more from within versus needing it from others.
30.15 I get Paid to be my 19-year-old autistic sons caregiver. The timing was perfect as I lost my job in Sept 2025 after working there for 17 years. I had been struggling in my day-to-day life working 15 hours a day, 7/days a week, trying to manage my work on top of my caregiving and household responsibilities with very little support. I was always under a ton of stress, quick-to-anger, and was in a lot of chronic pain for years. My plan was to take the rest of the year off and enjoy that time with the plan to look for work at the beginning of this year. Fast forward 8 months and I really enjoyed my time off, and joined the Gupta Program which has had a lot of impact on my thoughts regarding my pain. I now find myself making the decision to actually NOT return to work in any fashion outside of my paid caregiving role. I am happy with this decision EXCEPT when I tell people that I’m not pursuing work. I fear that they think I am lazy and privileged to not have to work outside of the home (even though I know it means I will need to live much more frugally because of this decision and that caring for my son IS work). What part is this worry about what other people think and how do I work with this?
37.41 I don’t remember a lot of the specifics from my childhood. I remember generally fearing my dad and loved spending time with my mom. We lived on a farm, so all of us were always together. I don’t remember hearing a lot of praise or scolding for that matter, nor much in the way of talking about emotions, feelings, mental health and attributed it to the time in which I was raised (70s). Because of this, I have a hard time understanding the ‘whys’ of how my parts appear today. How do I deal with this?
40.54 I find the necessity of accepting the Achiever as it is (i.e. in its unhealthy, pushy state) in order for it to heal a bit of a conundrum. I guess you mean accepting it in my internal conversations (e.g. VVAing it?), but not acting upon what it pushes me to do? I find I can only do it when I am then also updating it.
43.15 I need to recognize that – probably since the Achiever has dominated so much of my life – my identity seems to be built around „doing things well“. With many things it isn’t even possible to gain any external approval because nobody can actually see or perceive anything, but it just wants to do the best it can to meet my own (or the Inner Critics?) internal standards. Is that the Achiever at work or something else? I wonder how to change that (mostly unconscious) sense of identity – if I need to – or to at least transform it to a healthy state?
49.21 I had the lovely idea to invite the Achiever into a new job of „Advocate for self-care and pacing“. And then how to stop it from going overboard with that as well? Mine already has the tendency to feel: „I must achieve this healing, otherwise I am a failure.“ (It already feels a failure because it is taking me so long…)
53.17 I usually struggle to believe others people’s praise as authentic and true. Is this a case of building trust with my Achiever to acknowledge that the external validation was true or should I focus on the internal validation or to some degree both? Is this the same case as the Achiever being at conflict with praise and positive feedback or is it different?
58.49 Is giving regular positive feedback a good approach to building a relationship of trust and understanding with my Achiever? If I am internally providing feedback, will it eventually believe me, or could it still fall in the trap of not believing the positive feedback I’m giving it – like its non-acceptance to external feedback?
1.01.01 After the workshop I had a for quite some time not seen symptom rearise (my tinnitus getting stronger- luckily it´s gone again, now) so I suspect it was my protector 2, not accepting that I had compassion for the achiever, and being content that he was feeling quite good. Does this sound possible, and is it better to work with the protector first then?
1.03.32 Connecting to the achiever, I noticed sadness and fear against other parts, which don´t allow him to feel free and understood. But I couldn’t really say which one and why. Do I try to find out the other side first and look for those parts or talk again to the achiever to give him compassion and the chance to let me know more about him now?
1.06.53 Of course I know there had be some problems with overachieving before the condition started. But since then much changed in my life, and the achiever is much calmer. How can I help to let the other part trust in this?
1.09.31 Overwhelm with Parts and Parts Clusters (3 or more parts active)
1.14.10 What’s Next and Feedback Form
1.16.51 Language Interpretation
1.18.19 Goodbye and Thank You
"I bought the "recording" option (i.e. I did not attend in real time). The course was laid out in a logical manner and Julie's explanations were easy to follow. Julie introduced concepts and discussed them clearly and concisely. An exercise was introduced and conducted well. Julie's responses to all the questions were careful and very insightful. The recording has a professional feel and was done quickly after the workshop. Julie included a list of timestamps to make finding different sections easy. She also gave us all a chance to participate in the Additional Q&A after the workshop - We had a week in which to do it. I think that is a generous and thoughtful touch, and was very useful to us participants, especially those of us who didn't participate in real time. Julie provided answers to all those questions in an audio recording, also painstakingly time-stamped. I had revelation after revelation during the workshop and follow-up Q&A, and yet I'm left with the sense that I still have a lot to learn from her. I plan to keep taking Julie's workshops."
Purchasing the Workshop
This Workshop is complete. You are able to purchase a copy of the Workshop below, which is yours to keep forever.
Included in your purchase will be:
1 x 90-minute Workshop Recording
1 x 78-minute Additional Q&A Session
1 x Audio of the Main Session Exercise
1 x up to 10-minute Personalised Audio Reply for up to 3 short questions directly related to the Workshop
""I have done 2 workshops with Julie and she is so kind and considerate. You instantly feel safe and at ease with her. You can see how she really loves doing this work. She explains things very thoroughly and makes you feel that you questions are important and of value. I highly recommend her workshops"
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